Life isn’t about ‘true love’s kiss’ or ‘getting your ex back’ or proving yourself worthy to another – because you will never complete yourself by being with another person.

Only YOU can complete YOU.

If all of what I’ve just said makes perfect sense to you, read no further.  If it doesn’t, some Universal Truths will help you along your path to Love.

Your Primary “Love” Connection is your Source

Many people are looking outside of themselves for that perfect person to ‘complete’ them.

After all, this is what we’re taught from a young age.  This theme appears in our books and movies and so everywhere there is a strong unconscious belief that one ‘special relationship’ will make us whole again.

However, anyone who’s been in a relationship and looked to the other person for self-fulfilment and self-validation will tell you it’s a rocky road leading to frustration and disappointment, if they care to admit to it.

The only way you can thrive in a relationship is if you understand you are already whole can complete in yourself.  You do not need another to complete you.

It can feel like you do, however…

Inside you are actually a blend of different energies, and you have both masculine and feminine energies inside of you. Did you know?

You can play the role of guardian, whether you are a male or female, and you can play the role of nurturer, whether you are male or female.

On the level of outer form, you may feel incomplete because it is the nature of yang to seek yin, and vice versa.

This also explains gay or lesbian relationships.  It seems that male and male are together, and female and female are together, because that is what we typically see, just the outer level of form.  However, if you sharpen your mind, you will see that one person is more ‘male’ and the other is more ‘female’ in energy.

The whole Universe is based on duality. Every atom has polarity.

In relationships, however, two halves do not make a whole.  They make a hole – a bigger one, typically!

Whatever you feel inside, you magnify.  So if you feel lack, the other person will typically not fill that sense of lack but actually magnify it.

You are living the balance of your own thoughts.

If you feel unloved, and you ask the other person, “do you love me?”, it won’t bring you comfort if they say ‘yes’.  You won’t believe them, and you will ask them again and again… and you will even ask them to prove it to you!

Typically, they leave.

If you love yourself first – not a in narcissistic shallow way, but the way a child loves itself unconditionally – then when someone else tells you that they love you, you’ll be able to receive it.

And you won’t need them to tell you either.

Here are two primary key to developing a healthy relationship:

1. Love yourself first
2. See what you can bring to your relationship, rather than what you can get from it.

Is the face changing but the relationship staying the same?

Single people who are lonely want a relationship, all the time failing to realise that many people in unhealthy relationships feel bored and trapped.

A relationship is supposed to be a fluid thing, but water can easily become ice when you want to control it.

I promise you not to change, and you promise me not to change – and love each other ’til death do us part – and bam, there you have it! A  first class recipe for deadness.

All life is change.

People who are in stagnant relationship long for freedom – or, bizarrely, another relationship.

Do yourself a favour

If you’ve just come out of a relationship, don’t just jump into another one.

Work on yourself a bit.  Get some clarity about who you are and what you want.

If you don’t understand your Vibrational relationship to Source energy and clean up your Vibration, you will take your existing patterns with you into the next love relationship.  You will unconsciously attract the same person which means the face (and the body) will change but not much else.

Trust me.

Before life woke me up, I went from one relationship to another seeking to find myself – but as I worked on myself and became aware of my Eternal Connection to Source, and my Inner Being, my neediness was replaced by fullness.

A conscious state of recognising one’s Being has a magnetic quality that is hard to ignore.  People find it irresistible because that is who THEY are this inside as well.  They recognise the light in you, and are drawn to it.

Vibrationally asking: letting go and letting God

We live in an environment of enormous and varied preferences and desires.

Through living life, we experience wanted (clarity) and unwanted (contrast).  However, because we give so much attention to unwanted, it can be a struggle to get past our own blocks.  It can even seem that life is unfair.

However, the Laws of the Universe are consistent and, if you will take the time to practice understanding them, you will live a life of joy where everything you want can easily come to you.

Often, when someone ‘gives up’, they suddenly get what they always wanted.

Why?

This is because all internal resistance melts away and they move into a state of freedom.  In that state of allowing, everything comes quickly and easily.

How many times have you heard from someone, ‘oh I stopped looking for Mr. Right and then he showed up’.

The moment you love yourself fully and have no need for a partner, he or she will show up!

Is there one Mr. Right or Mrs. Right?

Many harbour the delusion that there is only ONE person, or ‘soul mate’ that is right for them.

Take a moment to check in.  Are you so attached to the image of one person that you cannot let the Universe work on your behalf?

If you believe that there is just one person, then you will most likely feel that it’s impossible to have that wonderful intimate relationship you want, particularly if that person isn’t attracted to you!

If you instead use your ‘ideal person’ to get clarity about the qualities you want and then say to the Universe – which is God – ‘this or something better!’, you free yourself from attachment to outer form.  Then the perfect person (for you) will come along because you aren’t fixated on the lack of a relationship.

Dealing with rejection

What if you love someone and then lose that someone?  They reject you – and the relationship ends.

Pain is the first thing comes up, usually. Emotional pain.

Loss triggers feelings of powerlessness, despair and unworthiness.  However, you don’t have to wallow in self-pity!

If you understand that life is primarily an emotional journey, you will understand that your only work is to clean your energy and move back to Source.

Looking at the scale, you might identify that you are feeling revenge at first.  That’s okay because revenge is better than powerlessness.  However, don’t stay there!

Move to anger because anger is better than revenge.

Don’t stay in anger, because anger burns you.  It has power but anger is destructive if repeatedly indulged in.

Move into a milder form of anger.  You might start feeling frustration/irritation as you see happy couples around you and you remember your past relationship.

If you keep asking yourself ‘what do I really want?’ (feeling at peace with yourself and not needing a relationship… and a better, healthier relationship with someone who loves you when it does come along!), you can consciously and deliberately move back up the scale of Emotions and eventually you will feel contentment around the situation that was so painful before.

Once you feel the vibration of ‘hope’ pulsing inside you, you will be vibrating high enough to move towards the positive expectation of having another relationship, all the while enjoying your freedom NOW.

Once you feel passion, you are in the zone!

Then it’s a small, incremental step to feeling the power of love, freedom, appreciation for your life and all that it has caused you to become.

If you vibrate at that level of consciousness, all good things will flow into your experience automatically.